I Have No Value

There is a sad reality that struck me the other day. What I do has no value.

Or perhaps better said is I have no value.

One of the first things people want to know about you is what you do.

“Hello I’m April”
“Nice to meet you April, I’m      (fill in the blank)    . So what do you do for a living?”
“Oh I stay at home, look after the house, run the small farm that we have, and blog a little.”
“Oh that’s…nice. (pause) By the way did you hear that     (fill in the blank)   is hiring?”

Every. Time.

There is no value placed on the women, like me, that care for their families full time. There is no value placed on good house keeping, gardening, home cooked meals, child rearing, or faith. These are things of the past, and any modern day woman worth her salt should be able to juggle everything and get it perfect every time. They tell us that we are the problem, that we don’t measure up.

But then I look around at everything that is happening in the world. How families are falling apart, how hunger is everywhere, disease and sickness is everywhere, what we are told is food is actually poison and the real food is priced so high that sometimes there is no other choice but to eat the poison, even by those who work full time. There is no faith, there is no hope. There is constant arguing over things that don’t even matter; people always tearing each other down hoping that they come out on top. Children are raised by their daycare providers, teachers, and other students. How is that a perfect world?

I’m not saying we need more stay at home women (or men). Trying to classify you and put you in a category would be no better than what has already been done. We need more people who will stand up and say this is where I belong. And we need more people to affirm them, because we are all on a different road.

If you love your job and your family that is ok. You don’t have to choose. If you’re family is happy and taken care of, even though you work, that is fantastic. Keep it up.

If you are a struggling single parent, don’t give up! You do what you can, and that is all anyone has ever asked of you. You have more value than you know.

If you want to breastfeed or bottle feed your baby that is ok! Why must Facebook always be a fighting ground for breastfeeding vs bottle feeding? You’re feeding your child, that is what matters.

If you are a stay at home parent, good for you! You have value in what you do, even when others make you feel like you don’t.

BW shoes

If you can’t afford the best organic food but buy what can, keep doing what you are doing! A little is better than none at all.

If you garden and grow what you can to make up for what you can’t afford, keep working at it! You will see the rewards of it!

If you are sick, or lost, or lonely, or sad have hope. There is a God who loves you, and he sent his son to die for you.

Because you have value. 

Shared with the HomeAcre Hop



Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Back to top